I turned 25 in June this year and I’m still getting used to it, I’m not yet prepared to accept that I have been on the planet for a quarter of a century because I’m pretty sure it’ll bring on a quarter life crisis. One of those “what have I achieved with my life” kind of moments and the results of that will be, well, messy to say the least. Let’s quickly get past that subject matter shall we?
So if you are a regular reader of my blog (and if not then why not? The follow button is just over there >) you will have already spied my “what I’ve learnt series” and this is the latest instalment of that!
So hear are a few things that I have learnt from my 25 years on this planet!
You’ll only have a handful of really good friends // I once read somewhere that friends can be rated by degrees and that you should use those degrees to decide how long you spend with people, how you split your time and which friends to “prioritise”. I don’t buy in to this theory necessarily but I do agree that you will only ever really have a handful of “great” friends, people that you can rely on and always turn to in times of need. I’ve spent far too much time trying to please everyone, often at the expense of my closest friends.
You have to love yourself first // I think I’ve probably said this a thousand times but it’s always worth reiterating because it is so important. It’s a battle that I am still fighting and I have days were this seems impossible! We live in a world where we are constantly told that it’s not ok for us to love ourselves, that we can only aspire to perfection and trying to love yourself in the face of all that advertising is pretty much impossible. But we have to try because once you love yourself it’s a lot easier to understand why other people love you and hence it’s easier to have a lasting relationship.
Making decisions is hard // When it comes to making decisions I am completely and utterly useless, I just can’t decide on even the smallest of details. I like to blame my indecisiveness on my starsign, Gemini but it’s something that has plagued me all my life and something that I find even harder now that I’m older. The big decisions in life are exceptionally hard anyway without being a natural worrier and as someone that wants to do all the things, have everything and please everyone I find decisions astoundingly difficult. Although I’m now 25 and technically a grown up I still have huge doubts about what I want to do with my life and there are still things that I want to do. I’m definitely getting better at making decisions but it’s still something I struggle with!
Sometimes you will be wrong // Being wrong is a fact of life but it doesn’t make admitting it any easier. I hate admitting when I’m wrong but it does happen (although I would have everyone think the opposite) and when you are wrong it’s important that you admit it.
Striking a balance is hard // As you grow up you quickly learn that life is just one massive juggling act and keeping all those balls in the air at the same time is one of the biggest challenges. There’s your career, your friends, your family, your health, your finances and all the extra circular activities that you chose to keep, all these require time and balancing them is really hard. I often find that eventually one area of my life suffers and I try to overcompensate by giving that area more attention during the next month. It’s hard but one thing my 25 years has taught me is that getting a balance is possible but sometimes you just have to let something give. Life is for the living after all.
What have you guys learnt since turning whatever age you are?