Hey everyone, how are you?
Some of you might not have seen this video already, others of you definitely will have, but yesterday beauty blogger and youtube personality Zoella and her best friend Sprinkle Of Glitter (both girls are worth a follow by the way) uploaded a new video, entitled “Why are you so skinny”. When I first saw this video I was really intrigued, but having watched it I was both disappointed and inspired.
First of all I must admit that I was really thrilled to see someone as popular as Zoe discussing this issue in such an honest and public way because the way that weight is often discussed in the media is something that deeply concerns me. However I was also shocked (I am in no way having a go at Zoe) at the fact that the video felt slightly one-sided.
In the video Zoe was discussing how people approach her about weight, namely branding her skinny or thin, implying that she is ill in someway. She commente that it was having a negative impact on her self-esteem, a fact I don’t doubt in the slightest.
I do completely agree with the overall message of the video, that it’s not ok for us to judge each other on the way we look or the size that we are. I also appreciate that it must feel awful to have people continuously assume that your in some way sick, but I felt that more should have been said about the way in which larger girls are demonised too.
Like many news stories (the burka, the EU and immigration to name but a few) the issue of obesity in the UK continues to be regularly discussed and you can trust me when I say that this is having a hugely negative impact on the way that “curvier” girls feel. I understand that something has to be done to help the country get fitter, but instead of addressing the route of cause of the issue, we are instead demonising and offending people on each side of the scale (pardon the pun there). One news story that frustrates me in particular is the idea that obese people should be charged for treatment on the NHS, a punishment if you will for being the way they are, a frankly ridiculous idea that will never end well. If we start charging people who are deemed as responsible for their actions, where will it stop? (What about the person who broke their leg playing football?, that is technically self-inflicted right?).
Another area where this an obvious issue, is the celebrity gossip magazines. You might love these magazines, and yes occasionally I like to read one myself, but every time I do I am hugely concerned about the amount of emphasis that is placed on weight in these publications. Slim celebrities are either made into the ultimate icon (Lucy Mek anyone?) or called skeletal, while bigger women are deemed as having “let loose” or having a “fun time tummy”. (This last phrase was used to describe Kate Moss in one such publication recently, KATE MOSS ffs!!).
Ultimately (and I apologise for going all feminist on you here) this is an issue of equality because while “obesity” on the whole is discussed on the news, only women are really demonised for being “too fat” or “too skinny”. When was the last time you saw Russell Brand criticised for being “too skinny” or James Cordon criticised for “letting himself go”.
Of course these arguments are never one-sided, and while gender constraints are particularly harsh on women, they do affect people of all or no gender. At the end of the day everyone should be able to do what they want then they want.
Unfortunately for us ladies, there is still this idea that women have a duty to society to look after themselves, too look pretty for the rugged and hardworking men. Frankly it’s unfair and it’s ridiculous. But it also boils down to how we discuss weight in this country, treating as if it’s somehow the public’s business and the fact that we feel the need to label each and everyone. At the end of the day, my size, your size or Zoella’s size, is no one else’s business!