Hey everyone and welcome to my “Crazy World” post! How are you?
I know that I normally post these sorts of things on a Friday, but because it was World Mental Health day I’ve decided to bring this post forward slightly! Happy Mental Health day!
So today I thought that I would share a little secret with you, something that might surprise some people but I’m sure will be no shock to close friends and family, I’m actually not very confident. There I’ve admitted it, despite my ability to hide behind “faux” confidence I really am a very self-conscious person and don’t be fooled by my ability to talk about sensitive topics on here either, in reality I’m a pretty good actress.
I won’t go into detail why I feel the way I do, frankly I’m not sure that would really help anybody, but whatever situation I’m in I always manage to find “something” to fret about. On a night out, or when talking to a lad, I’m not attractive enough, when I’m in the office, I’m not intelligent enough and the list goes on and on. I know that I am not alone in feeling this way, recent surveys have found that the countries confidence levels are fast falling and with social media now central to our lives, I have no doubt why this is the case.
Now I do have my moments, like everyone else, where I feel on top of the world but the at least half the day, my head is filled with negative thoughts. Now I know that there are thousands of different ways to help yourself become more confident and the truth is that the older you get the more confident you do actually become, but I just thought I would share with you some tips that help me!
- Imagine yourself exactly where you want to be in life, now or in ten years’ time. An actress, the prime minster, a mother, a father, whatever that might be imagines it in as much detail as is possible. Picturing this scenario always helps me feel more motivated and with this my confidence tends to rise. Now I must admit this isn’t always the case, sometimes my negative beliefs are just too loud but generally it is something that helps me cope!
- Listen to a “feel-good” song. This is something that always works for me, especially if I focus on the lyrics and don’t allow my mind to wonder back to the horrible pace it was! Currently I really like the following-
- Katy Perry- Roar and Part of Me
- Imagine Dragons- It’s time and On top of the world
- Passenger- Life’s for the living (review of album to follow)
- Use positive affirmations! There are hundreds of these available online, but I suggest using your own. Now most of these are personal and I’d rather keep them to myself, but I will share the following with you.
- You’re not the best and you’re not the worst. Your you, and that’s ok.
- Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.
- Pretend to be confident. I know this one sounds silly, but after practice I can guarantee that it will work! Copy the people that your friends with that are already confident!