At some point in our lives most of us have set ourselves a weight-loss goal, some of us will have achieved it, some will have lost weight and then put it back on again and others will have fallen at the first hurdle. Yet despite what the media constantly tells us and let’s be perfectly Bill here (I was sick of using Frank) it bloody well tell us a lot, losing weight is not always what it’s cracked up to be!
So is it any real wonder that the diet industry is worth a whooping $2billion in the UK or that there has been a huge rise in body dysmorphia and eating disorders. A coincidence? I think not.
Of course it has been scientifically proven that being obese comes with potential health consequences and I’m all for people trying to improve their health. I also admire people for going after their goals or ambitions and if being fit is one of yours I envy you in more ways than you can imagine! I’m not someone that naturally enjoys working out, I really really wish that I was.
Health consequences of being obese aside, the media undoubtedly glamourises weight-loss and portrays it to be at the heart of all our worries, giving the impression that is the solution to all our problems and making us feel as if it is the goal we should be going after. I’ve tried to lose weight, I’ve lost weight and I’ve ended up putting it all back on again and during my journey I’ve noticed quite a few issues with the media’s flawed glamorisation of weight-loss.
Sometimes there’s a deeper source to the problem // I share a lot with you on here but some of you might be surprised to learn that I’m not a very confident person. In a lot of ways I’m more confident than the average person but at the same time I can be shy too, especially when it comes to my appearance. I’ve definitely grown in confidence as I’ve grown up and over the years I’ve learnt the hard way that you’re the only person who’s opinion actually matters. And there lies my biggest issue. Sometimes I don’t respect myself as much as I know that I should and this only fuels my unhealthy eating habits. I’ve lost weight and yeah it does make me feel a little bit better but as my weight regain testifies, I’m not addressing those inner issues. Losing weight will only ever go so far but to really really love you, it takes more than just weight-loss.
It doesn’t always mean a happier you // The media seems to suggest that losing weight is the answer to all your problems and suggests that is at the heart of being happy. I definitely feel happier when I’m eating better but not necessarily because of the weight-loss. It takes a lot more than losing weight to make you feel happier because very often weight-loss is the least of the problem. And you know what, if you’re happy with your size, whatever size that might be, then who bloody well cares what other people think!!
You will attract all of the men // Ah this myth, one that particularly winds me up and goes against all my feminist feelings. Magazines continue to pump this flawed belief that all men are attracted to all skinny women. It’s as bad as the idea that we all inherently have a type. The truth is that different men like different kinds of women in exactly the same way that we like various kinds of men. Never, ever lose-weight for someone else and never to attract a man! If you want to lose weight, do it for you and not for anyone else! If he doesn’t fall for your personality when you’re a size 18, why should he when you’re a size 8?
Nor does it mean you are lazy // Gosh I hate the stereotype that being overweight means that you must be unhealthy because sadly some people have much more complicated underlying conditions. We are dangerously close to persecuting these individuals when we peddle outdated myths about weight and it’s a huge lesson for all of us. Never, ever look at someone and judge them on what size they are or aren’t. Instead of judging simply remember that a. it is none of your business and b. you don’t know anything about them.
What do you think?