A few weeks ago my family had an emergency situation (it turned out to be nothing but at the time it was kinda scary) and I realised that I’m terrible at coping in an emergency. I’m someone that likes to be in control of everything, so when things are out of my control I find myself at a loss for what to do. I’m a flapper (not of the exciting, dance-y glamorous kind but the other anxious, worrying kind) and I flap about making silly jokes or fusing over the person at the centre of the situation.
There are always two people in this kind of scenario – those that know how to act and those that don’t and I fit in to the latter of the categories. But you can only tell which one you are if and when you face an emergency situation. Those that know how to act naturally take control and are confident at coping in an emergency but the other half freeze, unsure how to proceed forward.
Like all families my family has a mix of both types, some people who easily handle anything and some people who struggle to manage their panic. So I decided to seek out some tips from the “copers” to ask them what we flappers can learn.
Asses the situation // Before you jump in and try to handle or defuse the situation, take a step back and decide what the best course of action is. Do you need to call an emergency service? Do you need to drive someone yourself? Is there likely to be any negative outcome to any of the choices you have? In these kind of scenarios you have a spit second to make a decision, so your assessment time is short but nonetheless always allow yourself a time to check the best course of action.
Take a small step back // When your loved one’s are involved it’s really hard to know what to do and often emotions can get the better of you, causing you to panic and act in ways that you might not otherwise. It’s hard but try your best to take a step back, to forget the person is a loved one and detach all emotion from the situation.
Remove yourself from the situation // In the situation mentioned at the beginning of this post I panicked and offered nothing useful, so as hard as it was I had to admit defeat and remove myself. I knew that it was the best thing for me to do because the person was already surrounded by family members who knew exactly what they were doing and how to handle the situation. It made me feel pretty useless but I knew it was for the best and sometimes you have to make tough decisions and decide what is best for the individual.
Which category do you fit in to?