I’ve always had an anxious attitude to relationships, I tend to become absorbed in them to a dangerous and unhealthy level. To a point where that person and that relationship becomes my life. It’s baffled me, devastated me and at times made me feel really alone. It’s made me feel really different and not in a good way.
This week I was diagnosed with “Anxious Attachment disorder” and I wanted to share this revelation with you, as I wondered how many of you had felt similar emotions or had the same impulses that I have. It’s not a nice way to be, it’s ruined relationships and at times come dangerously close to running my life but this diagnoses has finally brought me a new understanding, a sense of closure and a strange sense of acceptance. I’ve always thought that I just wasn’t very good at relationships or that I was some sort of freak. This verdict makes me feel a lot better, I realise that far from being alone or being a freak, I’m actually ill.
What does it mean?
- People with anxious attachment disorder tend to seek high levels of approval, intimacy and responsiveness and tend to blame themselves when they don’t get it.
- They have no sense of existence outside of the relationship they are in, it therefore leads the person to see closeness to reaffirm that connection and not for connections sake.
- People with AAD work extremely hard to avoid being abandoned by the person.
- They have high level of impulse.
- People with this
- They have a constant need to check technology, to seek reassurance.
- They have a “fantasy” image and nothing is ever enough.
Have you ever felt this way?